Just because it comes in your size, doesn’t mean you have to wear it.

I have a problem.

I was doing a little online shopping/research and noticed the same thing time and time again.
The shortest and tightest dresses possible, stepping over, what I believe to be, the acceptable size of design and into the “plus size” arena.
I also noticed that the brands that had ranges specifically targeting the same market seemed to favour the shapeless, dowdy look for clothing.

On one hand the fashion world insists that women sized at 16 plus should have the same fashion rights as their size 6 counterparts but on the other, they are saying, once you get fat you should only consider potato sacks or moo moo’s.

Now before the obvious tirade of hatred starts flowing from the fingertips of those that don’t know me, please hold your horses; take a moment to google/facebook/youtube me. You will see, that at a healthy/chubby/curvy/fat (delete as you wish) size 16/18 (depending on the store or clothes) I am speaking from a place of experience rather than sizism.

Right, that over with, back to my rant.

I am definitely frustrated with the fashions world’s resistance in accepting that women are, once again, becoming rounder and fuller. We are a strong force and we deserve to have suitable clothing that will enhance rather than squish us. Some simple additions to ranges would make all the difference, for example, the trusty pencil skirt, or cute dresses that maybe hit the knee or come just below it so that we have the option of a nice dress in varying lenghts. Something that comes with a strap thicker than a piece of string (to enable us to wear our bra's) or wide leg, high waisted trousers that are actually WIDE LEGGED.

I sincerely believe that there is no reason on this earth that a woman of my size should parade around in daisy dukes or skimming the bottom body con. In my opinion, it is entirely unnecessary and completely unfair to the general public.
I also believe that there should be more choice available to us than what you find (usually hidden away downstairs, as that is where the shamefully fat are apparently meant to secretly shop) in H&M’s BIB range.


I am all for making statements with your clothing, but I believe that these statements should be made in a manner that will not scare small children and animals.

Understand your shape, fine tune your style, shop smart.

Body Beautiful?

As much as I hate to say it, as women we suffer from an array of Body Image issues regardless of our shape, size, height, weight etc.
I have also noticed that the areas of this supposed imperfection can change just as the seasons do because what we see around us seems to dictate the way that we view ourselves.

Even though we already know that none of us were meant to look alike we still find ourselves swayed by the general standards of the world and sometimes misjudging what we should or should not look like.

Outside of weight, muscle mass and hair colour, we have becomes obsessed with changing the parts of us that we realistically shouldn’t be able to. The elective plastic surgery figures in the UK continue to climb, with the recession having no visible effect on the lengths that we will go to, to be “perfect”. You’ll be interested to know that this percentage has risen in men and well as women.

I am not the most insecure woman in the world, and at the age of 30, I have learned my body and how to best represent/work with it but I still have those days where I wake up and feel ugly and unattractive…

I have decided to take this blog in a new direction and will begin a series of postings all about the body. They will include segments about me and my body, the stories of others, the way different people around the world view the body. If I stumble across any “helpful hints” I will post those also.

My aim is to discuss and share with the same honesty that you would find in any of the posts that have come before these on this blog and on my main blog ( www.dontthinkjustfeel.blogspot.com) .

Hopefully you’ll like it and will become involved in it too.

Natx

*covers eyes*

So...

I am not doing very well with this weight loss thing. I have noticed that stressful periods in my life do 1 of 2 things... Cause me to stop eating or make me a little reckless.

Unfortunately, I am in the middle of a reckless phase.
I haven't been to the gym in goodness knows how long and I am not eating the healthiest either.

At least my evening meals are a little more balanced due to the fact that I have a nice kitchen all to myself so cooking is quite pleasant as I enjoy cooking almost as much as I enjoy eating.

I don't think that I have gained any eight but I definitely know that I haven't lost any either.

I am very aware of my short comings in the fitness/healthy eating stakes because I get that annoyed/ashamed feeling anytime someone mentions how well they are doing with their healthy eating and/or exercising regime.

Had a meeting with a friend (soon to become business associate) and she mentioned a detox which was based on Juicing (drinking various fresh fruit juices with added vitamins etc as a replacement to meals for 7 days) she said she did it and felt much better for it. Also considering the whole Colonic thing to try and rid my body of some of the toxins that can contribute to lethargy, poor concentration etc but we'll see how that goes as I'm not particularly excited about the prospect of a tube of warm water up the bum. Some options to explore I guess.

Right... time to stop allowing the hard times to dictate my food consumption (in either direction) and be better...

Natxxx

I AM FAT.

Maybe the word overweight would sit a bit better with a lot of people as the F word can sit a little harshly at times.
I have been thinking about this blog for a long time. Was slightly put off as the reaction to my initial decision to keep this blog was very mixed, leaning more towards the negative side. So after taking some of the more valid points on board... Here I am.

Still deciding on whether or not I will promote this blog in the same way I promote my other one www.dontthinkjustfeel.blogspot.com but time will decide that one for me and I am content to wait for the feeling to surface.

I have never really been one to mince words and when I used the F word earlier it wasn’t as a result of insecure self deprecation, just the real.

I want to loose weight. I am unsure in stones, pounds and ounces how much I would like to loose but I would like to sit comfortably as a 14. That means I need to let go of 2 to 3 dress sizes (depending on what I’m buying and where I’m buying it from).

Today, wasn’t the best of days. I ate Curly fries... but the day isn’t over and I intend to get home relatively early today so that I can prepare my lunches for the next 2 days a bit more properly.

I shall keep you posted...

Nat xx

The story begins...

Before Christmas party season I was too fat to party. I say this because every single item that was being sold for the Christmas period seemed to either be very very short or very very tight. The things that were specifically designated for the big girl party goers were the stuff for grandma's and women at least 15yrs my senior.

On a random shopping trip I became too fat to wear nice clothes as every thing that I liked didn't seem to be in my size... Either my breasts were too big, or my ass and hips had too much circumference or the arms of the garment threatened to cut off blood circulation to my arms...

The final straw came when my wellies broke... Apparently my calves were too big to allow the wellies to stand straight enough and the constant bending of the plastic meant that the seam at the back gave way...

Today, I am on a new mission.... Drop 2 dresses sizes at a reasonable, healthy and sustainable rate.

The purpose of this blog is to detail my adventure. Each and every good, bad and ugly part of it.

Feel free to join me, to suggest things, to communicate with me and keep me motivated...

Enjoy

Nat xxx